You are likely not stuck in the mode; it’s just that the border colors don’t change in that manner now in modern JupyterLab and Jupyter Notebook 7+.
See here for basically the same question from almost exactly a year ago.
This part here probably summarizes it most succinctly:
If ever in doubt about your experience, go here and click the ‘launch binder’ badge. You’ll get a fresh temporary session on a remote machine with one of the latest versions of JupyterLab. You can use that and eliminate browser extensions as a variable by trying different browsers where you maybe didn’t install any extensions yet.